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Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men…

Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men…

This last week approaching my book release date (which, by the way, is not happening tomorrow) has reminded me of a section of my book about contrast. Things can’t always go the way we expect and we have to try and be okay with it. Easier said than done, yes. But certainly possible. And easier on the stomach.

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Here is an excerpt from Chapter One of my book, In So Many Words, not coming out tomorrow as originally planned.

“Out of all the books we studied, there is one that changed my life and continues to resonate with me. Along with The Bhagavad Gita, we read one of its companion books, Poised for Grace, by Douglas Brooks. First of all, who would have thought that I would read The Bhagavad Gita ever in my life? Not me! But now, it serves as the basis of many of the decisions I make and the way I feel about difficult situations. In fact, there is a note in
the margin of my companion book which actually reads…This is the meaning of life! It doesn’t matter if it is the meaning of life for you or anyone else. It is for me and that’s perfectly fine. Perception is relative. I wouldn’t have accepted that concept ten years ago.
The Bhagavad Gita, among many other teachings, discusses the need for contrast. There is evil in this world. Horrible things happen. People do unspeakable things. Those things make us angry, sad, and discouraged. But, in actuality, we NEED those things. We need to feel and understand the contrast between good and evil, happy and sad, right and wrong. Imagine if we lived in a utopia, always feeling bliss and divine connection. We
would never know the opposite, therefore never really knowing the grace of divinity. We must feel the contrast in order to know what feels good to us and what does not. Without it, that land of perfection eventually shrivels away and is lost completely. We need free will in order to make choices. It is kind of a system of checks and balances. In my Kula, we concluded the following: Without knowing what you aren’t, you cannot know what you are.”

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The Best Laid Plans…

‘The best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry.’

No matter how carefully a project is planned, something may still go wrong with it. The saying is adapted from a line in “To a Mouse,” by Robert Burns : “The best laid schemes o’ mice an’ men / Gang aft a-gley.”   Dictionary.com


Well, we had to scrap our camping trip. It has been raining up in these parts for days on end. The satellite shows a hug band of rain headed for West Jefferson, NC. The rain will start this afternoon and continue until tomorrow. Not the ideal camping weather. I don’t mind being cold, but I do mind being wet.

Big fat bummer.

But I had a great time yesterday visiting my old school. I spent two hours just wandering the halls, talking to colleagues, and being introduced to the students as “the very first dance teacher” at the school. I felt like a bit of a celebrity. I’ve been gone for 9 years, so of course, all the students I knew have been gone for a few years.

It felt nostalgic and sad, but inspiring at the same time. The school is still vibrant with color and sound. The students and staff seem happy. It’s just as I remembered.

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Yes, No, Maybe So







Yes, no, maybe so?

I’ve come to notice something about myself. At first, it seemed like a phase, maybe a situational thing. But, it is slowly emerging as an extremely annoying characteristic.

I can’t commit to anything.

Since I became a mother, everything I do or am supposed to do is apparently optional. Of course, the things I do for my daughter’s welfare are mandatory, but beyond that, anything (or nothing) goes.

Maybe I’ve tried to do too much. I say yes a lot. Maybe I feel isolated as a stay at home mother and want to get out and do things. Maybe being a mother isn’t enough and I have to do more…be more. I really want to do everything. I want to have fun. But life gets in the way. And dammit, I’M TIRED!

Whatever it is, I obviously need to reign it in, figure it out, set my priorities, and chill.

This mostly pertains to social outings, thankfully. I certainly don’t make a habit of screwing people over when it comes to things that really need to be done. And if you’re paying me, I’m your girl!

Just a warning. If I say yes to a party, I will probably decide that I’m too tired to go. If I say that we should meet for lunch, I might just back out with a migraine. If I get excited about a girls night out, chances are my daughter will completely wear me out that day and I will be in bed at 8:30.

Thank goodness online invitations like Facebook and Evite have three RSVP choices:

Yes, No, Maybe.

My standard answer will now be “maybe” until I see what life brings. If it turns into a “yes”, good for me. If it’s a “no”, I’m OK with that and I hope you are too.

My good friend let me off a big hook the other day when she said, “I’m the kind of friend you can change plans with in the last minute. I’m totally OK with that.”

I love her.