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Your Oxygen Mask

“If you are travelling with small children, please put on your oxygen mask first and then assist your child.”

Have you ever really thought about the significance of that airline emergency procedure we have heard hundreds of times? It usually made sense to me, but also made me a bit nervous. I often wondered about the helplessness of a small child and how nerve wracking that would be for all involved. Yeesh!

Now, I totally get it. And I sincerely want you to get it too.

There has actually been a great deal of talk lately among our large circle of moms about great things happening in our lives. And guess what! A lot of it has nothing to do with our kids! Imagine that!

We have been getting healthy and fit, reaching birthday milestones, starting new jobs, celebrating anniversaries, fulfilling dreams, accomplishing goals, taking vacations, serving our community, and the list goes beautifully on and on. Way to go, mamas!

In the August issue of Natural Awakenings magazine, there is an article by Christine Carter called 10 Steps to Family Happiness. Step One: Put on Your Own Oxygen Mask First. It continues on by stating, ‘How happy parents are dramatically affects how happy and successful their kids are.’ We can translate that by saying something we have heard a million times. You are no good to anyone if you don’t take care of yourself. Or maybe the old adage: If Mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy!

It really is quite true and I can’t express enough how proud I am of my fellow moms who have taken this seriously and put into action the things that will bring you peace. And don’t even think about using the ‘S’ word when you do this. No, you are not being the least bit selfish when you do something, just for you, bringing the health and happiness necessary to do your most important job…to be mom. Take that “S” word out of your vocabulary and never give it another thought.

So, if for any reason, you have not had the chance to take this leap into self-preservation, stop and think about something. Think of one thing you want to do for yourself. It can be as simple as reading a book or watching great movies. It can be as grand as going back to school or training for a marathon. Whatever it may be, begin making an effort to do it. It will take some time and practice to get used to doing this foreign thing. This thing, which is for you and you, alone. Keep practicing. Keep doing it. Before you know it, you will feel that oxygen flowing more freely through you. You will be a different person, a different mom, and you will love yourself for it. Everyone around you will love you more than they already do.

Put on your oxygen mask and breathe deeply.

Aaahhh…