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new year

One Way to Approach the New Year

As this new year approached and I was inundated with suggestions to leave my troubles in 2017, look ahead to 2018, come up with a resolution for the new year, and be excited about it, all I could feel was the need to be left alone.

The last six months of 2017 were horrendous for my family. My 86-year-old father underwent heart surgery on August 1st and due to medical malpractice, suffered a brain injury. Before this, he was a healthy, strong, intelligent man who went to the gym three times a week, completed the New York Times Sunday Crossword Puzzle, and rode a tractor almost daily through acres of farm land. His heart is now as healthy as can be. His brain is not. Although he has progressed a great deal from being unable to walk, talk, eat, and control his bodily functions, our family has been through pure hell taking care of him. He and my mother now live with my family.

So, when faced with the anticipation of a new year, I simply felt stuck in the hardship of 2017. How can I not be? It’s still happening. So I wanted to put this off.  Could we just wait another six months for a new year? I’m just not ready.

So I turned to thoughts of yoga: love, light, peace, and truth in body, mind, and spirit. And that was my turning point.

New Years Day passed without a thought. I celebrated without the need to have discovered my resolution. Daily tasks were carried out in plenty of time. The house was transitioned back to normalcy from all the decorations, baked goods, and Christmas music.

What I had to remember is that this year has been difficult for me. And 2018 will continue to be the same, at least for the time being. In addition to the events surrounding my father’s injury, I have lived with anxiety and depression since the age of 19. I turned 50 last year. In fact, my 50th birthday celebration was brought to a screeching halt by what happened to my father. It’s been a struggle to keep my anxiety and depression at bay.

So I gave myself a break. A big one. I removed this huge need to identify what I desired for 2018 and gave myself the time and space to let it come to me. I created an opening to allow its entrance.

On January 1st, while scrolling through my Instagram feed, it flew right in. I saw a word I hadn’t seen in a while and had forgotten about: Sankalpa. This is a Sanskrit word in yogic philosophy that refers to a heartfelt desire. It is an intention or a resolve to do something. It comes from deep within and is often an affirmation.

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On January 2nd, I taught a yoga class using this idea as my theme, informing my students that they had one of four options:

1.) Use a resolution you’ve already created and transform it into a Sankalpa.

2.) Create your Sankalpa during class today.

3.) Be open to receive your Sankalpa if it is not easily coming to you.

4.) None of the above.

I had already chosen number three and I still haven’t been able to put it into a concise phrase, but I now know what I want this year. I want yoga. Not just the physical practice of yoga but all of the spiritual healing and connection that comes with it. I want to feel as much love and peace as possible every day, in every moment. I want to be able to surround the sadness I feel for my father with light and transform it into joy. I want to be true to myself and allow the time and space needed for all of this.

I can do it. I know I can. And I’m in no hurry.

 

Wonderful Places Where Yoga Heals

Project Balance

“Our Mission is to bring mind-body wellness to the children and families of our community through partnerships, education and outreach.”

Yoga 4 Change

“Yoga 4 Change is a non-profit organization that achieves meaningful change for veterans, incarcerated individuals, vulnerable youth, and those dealing with substance abuse. Our purpose-driven yoga program enables us to heal and empower these under-served populations, creating healthier, safer communities, one class at a time.”

The Recovery Village 

“Our patients reside in beautifully designed, private and semi-private rooms with comforting accommodations and amenities. We provide a rare retreat for our patients with a serene landscape and top-notch amenities to promote a healthy recovery environment.  Our full continuum of care reaches past your stay at our residential facility, ensuring continued success in your future.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

best laid plans

Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men…

Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men…

This last week approaching my book release date (which, by the way, is not happening tomorrow) has reminded me of a section of my book about contrast. Things can’t always go the way we expect and we have to try and be okay with it. Easier said than done, yes. But certainly possible. And easier on the stomach.

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Here is an excerpt from Chapter One of my book, In So Many Words, not coming out tomorrow as originally planned.

“Out of all the books we studied, there is one that changed my life and continues to resonate with me. Along with The Bhagavad Gita, we read one of its companion books, Poised for Grace, by Douglas Brooks. First of all, who would have thought that I would read The Bhagavad Gita ever in my life? Not me! But now, it serves as the basis of many of the decisions I make and the way I feel about difficult situations. In fact, there is a note in
the margin of my companion book which actually reads…This is the meaning of life! It doesn’t matter if it is the meaning of life for you or anyone else. It is for me and that’s perfectly fine. Perception is relative. I wouldn’t have accepted that concept ten years ago.
The Bhagavad Gita, among many other teachings, discusses the need for contrast. There is evil in this world. Horrible things happen. People do unspeakable things. Those things make us angry, sad, and discouraged. But, in actuality, we NEED those things. We need to feel and understand the contrast between good and evil, happy and sad, right and wrong. Imagine if we lived in a utopia, always feeling bliss and divine connection. We
would never know the opposite, therefore never really knowing the grace of divinity. We must feel the contrast in order to know what feels good to us and what does not. Without it, that land of perfection eventually shrivels away and is lost completely. We need free will in order to make choices. It is kind of a system of checks and balances. In my Kula, we concluded the following: Without knowing what you aren’t, you cannot know what you are.”

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Five Women. One Book. Namaste.

Five Women. One Book. Namaste.

In So Many Words arrives November 4, 2016 on Amazon and Shanti Mom For One.

A little bit of stress has tainted this process, but when I get beyond the stomach aches and the insomnia, I realize how cool this is really going to be. It will be so fun to call myself an author.

And when I take the time to watch these videos again and again, my soul rests. With MaryAnne especially. Sit in a room with her for five minutes and your troubles melt away.

What an honor to be trusted with Donna’s most intimate thoughts. I admire this woman immensely.

There is no one else like Kate. No one. Fire and rain all in one beautiful package.

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Too bad you didn’t get to see Mary on video. You could learn a thing or two from her.

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Poignant Moment Defines My Kula

The following is a poignant excerpt from my book, In So Many Words, being released next Friday November 4th on Amazon and Shanti Mom for One.

One day I arrived at yoga in tears. I hated doing that and almost turned around to go home, but I knew better. No matter what, being in yoga, even if I didn’t move a muscle could only make me feel better. I came straight into the office where Kate was greeting her students and of course, she immediately embraced me and asked what was wrong. Well, there was nothing wrong. Nothing is really wrong when you are depressed, anxious, being pumped with hormones, and trying to get through it all. It just is what it is and you can’t explain it to anyone else. My body was in shock, I’m sure. Kate, who had recently studied Reiki, said, “I’ll do some Reiki on you,” and laid her hands on my shoulders and back. Then Mary arrived, saw me hunched over the office counter, and without a word, laid her hands on me as well. While the tears still flowed and the angst remained, my hopes of victory took over. I got through class with little movement and more tears, but I did get through it. The sacred space and the loving touches enveloped me. These women once again wrapped me in their love and told me it was going to be okay.

Before it was all over, my body had endured a total of 53 hormone shots, over a period of two months, in my abdomen and both hips.”

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Contributing Writer Speaks Honestly

Contributing Writer Speaks Honestly

My heart is so full of pride for my Kula and their contributions to my book being released on Friday November 4th.  In So Many Words is my honest and personal view of a small group of women who helped me change my life through yoga and spiritual guidance.

In this video from my YouTube Channel, Shanti Mom For One, Donna reads an excerpt from the chapter we wrote together. Donna opens up about her own journey toward independence and self-reliance.

My book will be available on Amazon and on my brand new website, also being launched on November 4th. I hope you will join in on the conversation.